Once upon a time, I had a copy of that book, but I found I had a hard time engaging with the content. Maybe with more experience now, I am ready to reengage! Thanks for the suggestion, Alex!
As usual, Josh, this is an interesting approach and it raises the question: "Is this what clients want/need?" and are they ready for self discovery. But then, I mentor...which may be a different need. I find that the fewest of my mentees are able nor ready to self reflect, to see that truth in the mirror, until, through some excercises, they can start to do so. This is a huge step for most of the folks and kids I work with. So, in my view there is a lot of showing "HOW" before seeing "WHO", and then cranking up the courage to do so let alone speak about it. Maybe it is a whole different client segment which I deal with? My comment is triggered by your view to not giving them answers, and finding that one leads to the other.
It’s an astute comment (as usual!). Not all clients have important things left unsaid. And there are some clients who do and are not yet ready. The notion of permission is really important here, and it’s my policy to ask, not coerce. My practice is centered primarily on clients who are funding their own coaching (as opposed to those who receive a coaching benefit from an employer), so I have found that they show up uniquely motivated to learn more about themselves and move forward. That being said, there is plenty of great progress to be made without a dramatic revelation. People can also discover themselves and their motivations and desires in small increments. This post was me reflecting on how powerful it can be when a bigger insight comes to the surface and is spoken.
Once upon a time, I had a copy of that book, but I found I had a hard time engaging with the content. Maybe with more experience now, I am ready to reengage! Thanks for the suggestion, Alex!
As usual, Josh, this is an interesting approach and it raises the question: "Is this what clients want/need?" and are they ready for self discovery. But then, I mentor...which may be a different need. I find that the fewest of my mentees are able nor ready to self reflect, to see that truth in the mirror, until, through some excercises, they can start to do so. This is a huge step for most of the folks and kids I work with. So, in my view there is a lot of showing "HOW" before seeing "WHO", and then cranking up the courage to do so let alone speak about it. Maybe it is a whole different client segment which I deal with? My comment is triggered by your view to not giving them answers, and finding that one leads to the other.
It’s an astute comment (as usual!). Not all clients have important things left unsaid. And there are some clients who do and are not yet ready. The notion of permission is really important here, and it’s my policy to ask, not coerce. My practice is centered primarily on clients who are funding their own coaching (as opposed to those who receive a coaching benefit from an employer), so I have found that they show up uniquely motivated to learn more about themselves and move forward. That being said, there is plenty of great progress to be made without a dramatic revelation. People can also discover themselves and their motivations and desires in small increments. This post was me reflecting on how powerful it can be when a bigger insight comes to the surface and is spoken.
"Saying the Unsayable" you might enjoy "Ineffability: The Failure of Words in Philosophy and Religion" by Ben-Ami Scharfstein